... talking about marriage.

Asking questions about the sustainability of one's marriage, brings up all sorts of conversations with one's spouse. Okay, I brought up some issues and they festered and oozed out into needing to talk to George. So one Monday we sat in our room confessing our faults to one another (as well as bringing up some faults of each other) and I realized we were both so exhausted we made little time for one another, and were both feeling the results of being neglected. We both admitted to having a bit of trepidation about enlarging our family. He being worried about finances, me being worried about the time and sacrifice that goes into raising an infant (and I'll admit a little vanity about being over 30 and what my body won't do that it did with Dorian when I was in my 20's). Our discussion brought us together and the result, no sex for two weeks. Not because we are angry or anything like that, but because he embarked on a spiritual journey that I support and it requires us to abstain for two weeks. This has been the greatest course in our marriage. We typically keep our distance from one another if we can't "get any", but realizing the importance of making sure each other are getting what we need emotionally, we can't keep our hands off one another. In the mornings, we no longer hop out of bed to get started on business tasks or daily chores. We linger in bed for hours at a time making out like teenagers keeping far enough away so not to be tempted to go any further. We can't afford a vacation right now, and being our plans for travel down south during this holiday season was sidetracked by extra people to care for, and broken down vehicles, we still need the down time. We retreated to one another's arms for blotting out the rest of the world, and it works better than any flight to a destination. During these past two weeks, our silly arguments have resulted in retreating to our bedroom with the door closed attempting to "solve" our dispute and the rest of the people in our home are none the wiser. We understand life can be stressful, and have decided to stop taking it out on one another... for now. If forever is what we're chasing, we can either choose to live waring with one another, or we can lock and load, hop in the trenches together and come out aiming at the world. We are too ruthless at war (generally speaking) to fight one another, so we make better allies than enemies, besides we didn't start off as enemies so why end up there.