Inside Access to the Joneses

George and I are very practical in most areas of our life. We understand the importance of God in our lives and marriage, and we also understand that we are both human. Though George is a licensed auto mechanic and has a degree in electronic engineering, he never relies on technology. He says it's faulty and largely due to human error. We try hard not to place each other on too high of a pedastal, as we both have our challenges with hight. The one thing we can agree on and are committed to is our marriage. As with any relationship we've had dry patches, however we know the satisfaction we now experience with our union is based on our willingness to work on maintaining. While we continue to get on each other's nerves, it's more important to be happy, than to be right. The truth always surfaces, and the other person will be able to see you were right, chances are they see it in the moment but may not want to admit to it. Recently, George and I attended a workshop, where the facilitator admitted that he told his wife she was always right, simply because having a peaceful home was more important to him. George says out loud "I don't think so." Our Pastor, who was sitting at the same table as us, said "George, you're still young." I laughed and told him (as I always do) when you get 50, you will be awesome and unstoppable. A few moments later he leans over and whispers to me "I'm still right." I laugh and rub his knee and whisper back, "yes, baby, you certainly are." We do not have examples of a perfect marriage to look at. Neither of our mothers and fathers remain married, or were ever married for that matter. Neither of us grew up in homes where there was both parents (or even step parents) in the home. We are both products of single women. However we work because we waited on God to send us each other, and we continue to understand that God is a big part of our marriage. I was once told by a church member, who had been married to his wife for over 25 years. People often look at their marriage as a two sided coin, a head and a tail. He said the problem with that analogy is that the wife is never considered to be the tail, and there are three sides of a coin, the side you don't really see is what keeps the coin rolling. The same is true with a marriage. There are three sides, him, her and God. You may not always see God, but he is what keeps your marriage rolling. I'm so blessed to be married to a man who understands that.