I have been so busy since my last post, and for those who follow my blog I deeply apologize. I want to keep you informed, or educated, or whatever it is you get from reading my blog, but lately I have been barely capable of turning on my laptop, let alone posting anything. My stepfather Kevin has come back home permanently and is looking for employment, my Aunt Rose passed and we had to plan her funeral (which was a lot to handle) as well as take care of dissolving her estate to cover some of the final expenses. Camp season is quickly approaching, so after taking two weeks off from my business, I had 18 messages on the phone and countless e-mails to reply to. In all of this, I still had a household to run, work outside the home that I went to every week without fail, as well as a husband that in all the chaos, I have to make sure he doesn't feel neglected. Unlike Dorian; who if he needs a hug, he grabs me and takes one, or steals kisses from me throughout the day; George will quietly wait for me to remember he exists. Men will only do this for so long before they find other things to keep them busy. During this time George worked on our fleet of vehicles (five vehicles, four motorcycles and a large u-haul truck), he worked on our computer network and various other tasks around the house to keep busy. Before he ran out of things to do around the house and began looking for tasks outside the house, I came up for air.
Perhaps you find yourself now competing with all his multitude of outside-the-home-tasks, fear not, you can still get it together. Remember when you first moved in together, he couldn't wait to get home to you? What changed? Lots of things change, but the needs of your man are still as simple as they were then. Stop thinking about all the things he used to do for you, and start thinking all the things you did for him. What we don't realize is while we're sitting around pouting about how he doesn't tango with us anymore (and it takes two to tango), we've been sitting around in a pink fluffy tarry cloth bathrobe (which clearly isn't tango outfit appropriate). Stop waiting for him, and start doing for him. He will come around and want to do those things for you. Men stress about providing for their families, working, the next big deal, the increase in bills with additions to the family, etc. The last thing he wants to stress about is his woman.
There is a study that showed men have the same brain activity when they hear music, and when women speak. How many of us know all the words to the popular songs that come on the radio, but we do know the words to the songs we enjoy. If you don't like the song on the radio what do you do? Change the station. Don't get upset because he didn't hear you, put the words to a song that he will listen to. Once his love cup is overflowing, he will respond. Take care of his needs, and he will rush home from work to take care of yours. Make it difficult for him to want to leave the house in the morning. If he's rushing to get away from you, fix the you part of the relationship, that's all you control anyway.
Perhaps you find yourself now competing with all his multitude of outside-the-home-tasks, fear not, you can still get it together. Remember when you first moved in together, he couldn't wait to get home to you? What changed? Lots of things change, but the needs of your man are still as simple as they were then. Stop thinking about all the things he used to do for you, and start thinking all the things you did for him. What we don't realize is while we're sitting around pouting about how he doesn't tango with us anymore (and it takes two to tango), we've been sitting around in a pink fluffy tarry cloth bathrobe (which clearly isn't tango outfit appropriate). Stop waiting for him, and start doing for him. He will come around and want to do those things for you. Men stress about providing for their families, working, the next big deal, the increase in bills with additions to the family, etc. The last thing he wants to stress about is his woman.
There is a study that showed men have the same brain activity when they hear music, and when women speak. How many of us know all the words to the popular songs that come on the radio, but we do know the words to the songs we enjoy. If you don't like the song on the radio what do you do? Change the station. Don't get upset because he didn't hear you, put the words to a song that he will listen to. Once his love cup is overflowing, he will respond. Take care of his needs, and he will rush home from work to take care of yours. Make it difficult for him to want to leave the house in the morning. If he's rushing to get away from you, fix the you part of the relationship, that's all you control anyway.
