This Thing Called Marriage

So you can probably determine from the title of this blog entry that I'm not writing on business matters, school  or personal values today. While business has picked up, due to it being camp season, and I'm turning in paperwork next week to begin school any day now, marriage is the condition that is at the forefront of my mind. "What God has put together, let no man tear apart" are words that ring loudly in my spirit. Man is biblically generic for woman as well. What we often fail to realize is that "no man/woman" includes the two people involved in the marriage. Complaining your husband won't take out the trash, fails to mow the lawn, or pick up after himself is void if your marriage was established by God. If your problems are much larger (which they seem to always be), prayer is what will change things. Not just prayer that God will change your spouse, but that he will also help you to deal with what you are going through. When we magnify God, our problems become demagnified, that is our problems become smaller. They don't disappear, but we are able to deal with them they way God would have us, as long as we realize he is the most important factor in our marriage.

These are not just words of encouragement to you, but to me as well. Due to military orders, George is only home on the weekends. This is a schedule that started last November and will continue through at least September/October this year. That is almost an entire year where the only time we have with one another is on the weekends. The only time George and I are in the same room is when we are sleep or at church. This is a huge problem, yet he feels the need to fill his weekend schedule with a massive to do list that often drifts into the following weekend. While this rigorous schedule was easy to maintain when he was younger, as he approaches another decade in age, he's starting to become tired and unable to accomplish the same workload during his weekend home visits. Fatigue has worn him both mentally and physically which I realize causes him to become frustrated with himself and others around him. I've resorted to taking my vehicles to outside mechanics and soliciting other vendors for work he would normally get accomplished. While he put up a fuss in the beginning, he now realizes he's able to spend more time with his wife and 7 year old son. Marriage isn't a cake walk, and it requires much work, but the work becomes achievable when you pray.